Archives for October 2018

Manhattan never sleeps, so it’s said. You could spend every waking moment taking advantage of everything the Big Apple has to offer: Broadway shows, world-class opera, thirty-two museums, Yankee games, Madison Square Garden concerts…and the list goes on. But what if the bright lights of the big city start to wear thin, and all you want to do is chill?

Check out these seven places to relax in New York City.

Central Park
Two and a half miles long and a half a mile wide, Central Park is Manhattan’s premier green space. Every weekend you’ll find skateboarders, bikers, and walkers sharing the many paths, kids navigating remote-control sailboats on the reservoir, picnickers basking on the 55-acre Great Lawn, and a world-class busker or two. Head to the North Woods to dodge tourists and enjoy some real peace and quiet.

The New York Botanical Garden
Located in the Bronx, the New York Botanical Garden offers 250 acres of gardens you can peruse on foot or discover by tram. Find your Zen in the garden’s native forest, river, and waterfall.

Sailor’s Snug Harbor Cultural Center
Just a charming ferry ride away, the Sailor’s Snug Harbor Cultural Center is a National Historic Landmark District that covers 83 acres of northern Staten Island full of 19th century buildings, a botanical garden, and park.

The New York Public Library
The stunning Fifth Avenue midtown library is flanked with the iconic lion statues, Patience and Fortitude, and the awe-inspiring interior is blissfully hushed. The library holds rotating exhibits and the North Hall is an official quiet zone.

Greenwood Cemetery
Brooklyn’s 478-acre graveyard may seem to be an odd place to find peace, but this bucolic National Historic Landmark has hills, ponds, and paths amid the graves of some of the most famous people of the 19th century, including Boss Tweed, Henry Steinway, Louis Tiffany, Leonard Bernstein, Lola Montez, and plenty of Civil War generals. It’s a lovely, quiet place for history buffs and bird watchers.

The Frick
Located on the Upper East Side of Manhattan, the Frick is one of those cozy, intimate museums created from the collection of the rich turn-of-the-century industrialist, Henry Clay Frick, and exhibited in his former residence. Kids under ten years of age are prohibited. Sit in the sky-lit garden court for a moment of meditation.

The Cloisters
Overlooking the Hudson River in the Fort Tyron Park section of Manhattan, this offshoot of the Metropolitan Museum of Art houses mostly western medieval art in cloisters that form the heart of the building. The whole museum, off the beaten path, is a hidden, and peaceful, gem.

Most big cities boast about the raucous vitality of their thriving communities as well as the multiplicity of services, venues, and events. But for many people, big cities can be intimidating, a sensory overload of noise, smell, color, light, and unending activity. Some studies suggest that, because of the stress involved in city dwelling, urban residents may have a 20% higher susceptibility to anxiety and mood disorders than those who live in rural areas.

So what can you do to deal with anxiety in big cities?

Crowd Control
By definition, big cities are densely populated. Tens of thousands walk the streets, eat in restaurants, and pack the buses and trains. Even those who are not usually uncomfortable in crowds may feel some anxiety navigating the swift stream of pedestrians in midtown Manhattan at lunch time.

Many psychiatrists believe that anxiety in crowds stems from a deeper sense of helplessness. Bumped on all sides, you feel restricted in movement and sense that your options to retreat are limited. It’s this perception of lack of control that induces the anxiety, and often makes ordinary events, such as walking a crowded city sidewalk, seem dangerous in a breathless, heart-stopping way.

If you’re living or working in the city, you may be able to map a better route from one point to another to avoid the more populated streets, or plan a series of retreats into local retailers, a municipal building, or other public space to give you time to breathe. City living is done at high speed, so whether you’re a visitor or a resident, be sure to take advantage of green spaces to grab an opportunity to decompress.

Know Your Surroundings
Big cities are, well, big. It can take years to really get to know all the neighborhoods and their culinary and cultural delights. The sheer size of the buildings, the distances necessary to travel, and the overwhelming amount of entertainment choices can be intimidating, especially if your living space consists of an 800 square foot studio apartment.

One way to reduce a sense of being overwhelmed is to expand your idea of home into the immediate neighborhood in which you live. Make a point to visit the local shops, trade banter with the shop owners, and try out nearby restaurants. Familiarity breeds comfort, which may help lessen anxiety over time.

Tinker With Transportation
Boarding a morning train in any major city can make anyone feel like a sardine in a can. It can be panic-attack disastrous for those who suffer from claustrophobia. Yet driving in a big city is no better, as frequent traffic lights, aggressive cabbies, heedless pedestrians, and determined cyclists make even the coolest drivers grip the steering wheel tight. In fact, the morning commute is one of the most stressful times of most people’s day. For big city dwellers, this can mean constant anxiety.

Consider your options. Can you shift your work schedule to avoid the worst of the rush hour crush? Are the local buses less crowded than the trains? Do you live close enough to walk or bike? Is it worth hailing a cab or a ride-share once or twice a week? Can you divide up the driving responsibilities by carpooling with others? If commuting anxiety is affecting your quality of life, it may even be worth considering a move closer to your work place.

It’s a fact that city living can affect the way your brain deals with stress. If you find yourself having difficulty coping, or experiencing rising levels of anxiety, never hesitate to discuss your situation with a mental health professional.